Guidance for solo adults aging alone

What is the Solo Aging Group Coaching About?

4/20/2021

What is the solo aging group coaching about? What kind of topics and content does the group discuss? These questions about the group coaching come across my email almost everyday. Here's what the content is all about and the topics we talk about in a group setting.

Before I start, let me ask you a question. "First look at the image above and answer,
Which side of the aging perception wheel do you resonate with?"

What's your angle on aging?

Each person no matter the age or circumstance has personal perceptions about growing older and not many of them look forward to it because in most cases, aging is looked upon as decline, isolating, depressing, complicated and uncertain. These negative notions about the older years are damaging to a person’s sense of self and physical health. Dreading the act of growing older can have enabling and constraining effects on the actions, performance, decisions, attitudes, and health of a person. These labels play a powerful role in shaping how we think about and interact with others, as well as how individuals within the stereotyped group see themselves.

That's a depressing way to look at the future. People in general have a tendency to focus on the fears of being lonely and alone, losing loved ones, losing the ability to do enjoyable things, losing the ability to drive and get around, having fear of dependence, feeling insecure, being isolated and left alone. But adopting positive aging perceptions can have the opposite effect on our attitudes and health behavior which can affect our attitudes to embrace personal empowerment principles.

Where does your perception on aging land?

When thinking about the years ahead, do you feel discouraged or hopeful? Do you feel depressed or invigorated? Are you honest yourself and willing to tell the truth about it? If you lean to the left where the feelings and thoughts are bleak, perhaps reading stories of vibrant adults will shift that thinking. If you’re inspired and feel confident about the future and how well you’ve prepared, kudos to you.

Whether on the left or right, or somewhere in between, know that you’re exactly where you need to be. Either way, the future will come. However, if you want to grab on to hope and vibrancy for the later years, there are strategies to embrace and apply for a better future.

The Solo Aging Master Group Coaching may be just for you. It’s designed to encourage participants to plan for the future by using the group’s energy and knowledge. By design, the energy and support one receives will assist to shift the mindset--from challenging and problematic to motivation and resolve.

The benefits of group learning

Collaborating with peers who want a more secure, connected, and supportive life will influence you. Individual decision making and possibility thinking will be impacted and enhanced more by the presence of others. Few personal thoughts, decisions and actions are made in isolation—they are influenced by those around us. That's why learning in a group setting is appealing and beneficial.

Group learning promotes the inner strengths of each member and helps them exploit opportunities for personal growth. The Solo Aging Master Group Coaching provides an outlet for members to overcome their stress and frustrations by providing them friendship, collaboration and support.

Together with the group members, you have the opportunity to plan for and mitigate your own concerns that could put you at risk in the future. Those include: Health, social connections, reliable support, finding purpose, and living in a place where it's safe and encourages independence. If you want to be confident in your mid-life and older, and to avoid uncertainty and doubt, it behooves you to identify, assess, and plan for the potential obstacles that could get in the way of enjoying life down the road.

Gain know-how about aging alone

My guided action steps taught in a group setting give participants the know-how and confidence to create a life you want to live. The tools given in the group will equip participants; widowed, single or divorced, to tackle tough issues like finding a health care proxy, forming a personal care support team, gain self-reliance, find affordable living, outlast money, make strong connections where you live, stay engaged and active, and to learn local resources to help you age well. These are the hectic issues solo agers face when they live apart from family members or have none at all.

If you resonate with the question, "Who will take care of me when I'm old," then the group is for you. If you’re inclined to worry about:

Loss of independence
Declining health
Running out of money
Not being able to live at home
Death of a spouse or other family member
Inability to manage your own activities of daily living
Not able to drive
Isolation or loneliness
Strangers caring for you
Fear of falling or getting hurt

And most of all.. "Who can I rely on if I get sick or need help?" Then the group is for you. It's the the single person's biggest concern when living alone.

Group discussions answer

"As I grow older, my health may begin to decline—How do I know the probability of my health years from now?"
"How do I create a sense of being cared about and cared for—like the kind most family members have for one another?"
"Who will watch out for me to make sure my needs are met and who will meet my basic needs for companionship, friendship, and community?"
"How can I know that money will outlast me?"
"Is the place I live affordable and can I keep up with the maintenance and will my monthly budget keep up with all of the expenses?"
"What are my options?"
"Does my community offer help?"
"Is there a process to follow that guides me through aging well or planning for the long term?"